We are bombarded by daily images and videos of stylish living, stylish products, stylish materials, stylish solutions for the home. It never seems to end. But, how do we sift through all of the noise? How do we know when we get it right? As I am fond of saying, design is a personal journey and one that should be enjoyed! Afterall, how can you make yourself happy if you are stressed out over all of the choices you have to make.
Aesthetic Realism is a belief that one’s attitude to the world around them is the most critical reality of the individual’s life. What life is more important than your home life and the environment that surrounds you can change your attitude, lift your spirits and see the world as a more beautiful place if you take the time to “feather your nest” in a way that feeds your senses and your soul. I will add to the equation the idea that if you are not having fun creating your own space, then there is something wrong with the process. Too many people fail, or worse, give up due to the stress of making decisions. This malady I like to call “analysis paralysis”.
So, before I delve too deeply into the psychological aspects of design, let’s talk about how to find that place where your aesthetic becomes a real part of your happy and comfortable world view. This is not about things or products; this is the about the emotional journey with your home.
Sometimes you have to stand back from a problem to find perspective. The same is true for your home. In fact, it is one of the only “truisms” in décor, if not life. Perspective is everything. Whenever I have a client in full or partial meltdown, I separate them from the situation. Then, after everyone has caught their breath, a solution can be found that will make a homeowner happy.
If perspective helps to alleviate areas where compromise or change are inevitable, then planning is the key to a smooth transition. Intellectually you know that you should make a plan before you jump. But emotionally we are full of excitement and anticipation that often times colors our judgement. You just want the house finished. You want to start living your new life. To me, unplanned rooms have a rambling visual quality. They lack focus. A well lived life is also a well curated life when it comes to your personal space.
Creativity, ingenuity and perseverance are elements of great design and memorable rooms. There is certain pureness, even romance, to a room that feels loved, embraces the occupants and offers you solace from the rest of the world. It rejuvenates and regenerates to gives you a whole new perspective on the beautiful world, both inside and outside of your home.
Accepting elements of your home, room, or space that cannot be changed is part of loving your home. I have never lost my wits over “oddities” in any room, of any project. I take the perspective that if it cannot be changed, then go with it! Those weird little things about your home can easily become endearing, charming and the most memorable pieces of your space and your décor. I tell all my clients, that quirky is good! Embrace the unique. Find a perspective of that quirkiness in your home that makes you fall in love. It is easy to do and it changes your outlook completely. That is all a part of living well. The intellectual and the emotional can live in harmony in your home, and when you find that sweet spot, you will know. You will feel it from your head to your toes. It makes you want to be home and to share that home. It offers you a new perspective of the world outside your home. Happiness, contentment and comfort is what we all seek. Make the effort today to live well tomorrow and every day thereafter. It all starts at home.
My wish for you is find sanctuary in your home. A home where all of your senses are fed and your aesthetic reality changes how you see not just your home but, the world around you.
Live Well,
Designer Dann
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